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We were sitting in the dining room of a timeshare in Florida after hearing the devastating news that my parents had gotten a divorce, and my husband said the most important words to me, after our marriage vows of course. He grabbed my hand and said, “We will never do this. I will not divorce you.” He touched my wedding ring and said. “This is forever.”
In a society and culture where the term marriage is used loosely and there's always an out, my wedding ring is a reminder that this is forever. I won't pretend that 12 years of marriage and 4 years of knowingly struggling with infertility was easy. There have been hard times. Tension between us that you could cut like a knife. Going to sleep with a tear-drenched pillow as silent tears fell from my eyes.
It hasn't been easy, but no one said that it would be. Movies and television shows make marriage seem all lollipops and daisies, but that's not reality. Marriage is made up of two sinners in need of a Savior. We need Jesus. Without Him, doing it on our own, we are destined to fail. And we do.
Marriage is a picture of Christ's relationship to the Church, and his love for her. Paul instructs us in Ephesians 5:25-27, “Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the Church and gave himself up for her, that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, that he might present the Church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish.” This is what our marriages are to look like. Two sinners are to meet each other in the scary, dark places of our brokenness, our fear, pain, anger, rebellion, and we are to show the world Christ's love. It is Christ who brings beauty to our mess.
Some days are hard. Especially when you learn about hidden sin and your soul is crushed. Your heart literally aches in pain as it beats within your chest. But God is bigger than that sin and that moment. God has a plan and a purpose. He wants to show the world His love for us. He wants the world to see His redemption in action. We are His hands and His feet even in those dark moments. The world is waiting and watching to see our reaction.
When we are weak, He is strong. He mends the broken. He makes beauty from ashes. He restores what was lost. We are merely clay jars in the hands of a mighty Potter. The fire of marriage is refining.
But that is what makes it beautiful.
So if you're reading this and you've given up on your marriage, take a step back. Put aside the emotions, and remember why you fell in love in the first place. Plan a date night and talk. Not just the easy, surface conversations, but really get to the heart. Communication is crucial is any relationship, but definitely in the marriage relationship. It's not too late. It's never too late. You don't have to walk this road alone. Keep fighting the good fight.
Let's commit to making our husband's a priority this year.